Men and women alike are motivated more persuasively by their emotions. Often, we simply use our intellects to rationalize those emotional actions after the fact. To women, emotions are much more profound and encompassing than they are even to men. In fact, when a woman explains something, she will often use emotions as legitimate reasons unto themselves. Just “feeling” something to be true is reason enough.
Don’t try to Convince her
Don’t bother trying to convince her, argue with her, or engage her in any other way on a purely logical level. Logic should never be used as a motivator in the field, because what a woman thinks she likes, or says she likes, is not necessarily what she responds to in reality.
Stimulate her Emotions
Use emotional stimulation instead of rational discourse. As long as it feels right, your romantic interest will invent her reasons for what is happening. In other words, a woman will come up with a thousand reasons that she shouldn’t have sex with you – but she will also come up with a thousand reasons for why she did.
A woman knows how susceptible to persuasion she becomes in an excited emotional state. Often her safeguard is to avoid the risk of becoming emotionally engaged in an interaction where she doesn’t feel trust or safety, or where the man gaming her doesn’t demonstrate a high S-and-R value.
Instead of only trying to give her “good” emotions while avoiding “bad” ones, stimulate her with a range of feelings including curiosity, fascination, connection, indignation, validation, laughter, embarrassment, happiness, sadness and fear of value loss. The more she is stimulated, the more compelling the experience will be for her.
S-and-R value = Survival and Replication value: your primary and secondary purpose in life is to survive and to replicate, respectively.
“Why do you suppose we only feel compelled to chase the ones who run away?”
- Vicomite De Valmonte, Les Liaisons Dangereuses
- Vicomite De Valmonte, Les Liaisons Dangereuses
CAT-STRING theory
Cats don’t take orders, but they can be tempted to chase e.g. if you dangle a feather on a string and use it properly, you can get a cat to perform acrobatics. But when you put the same feather down in front of the cat, it will turn up its nose (maybe even roll its eyes :-) ).
Keep validation and attention slightly out of her reach. If a man is too easily acquired, a woman will quickly get bored and lose interest. But if he is also completely unattainable, then she will also lose interest and give up. She must be baited to chase in small increments, just like a cat with a string…
In case you’re thinking and saying to yourself that this is “scheming, unfair, or whatever” please remember that as much as women are wonderful creatures, they are not angels of purity and morality – they’re human just like the rest of us. In the field, you may often notice women lying or using other manipulation: they may act jealous, use their sexuality to gain power, lie a bout their age or give you a wrong number, stir up trouble, or (without hesitation) ditch you for someone else – someone with higher status, more alpha, has deeper pockets…etc.
NB: How do you make someone want something?
1. Give it value
2. Show that others like it
3. Make it scarce
4. Make them work for it
No comments:
Post a Comment