QUALIFICATION: PART 1

She must be baited to invest herself in this interaction.

Once interest has been generated, the Game has only begun. In fact, it is a common mistake to think that attraction gets the girl. She must become invested in this interaction, and then rapport must be established.

Attraction is useful—to bait her into investing. Other than that, attraction is but a vapor. She might be making out with you tonight, but that doesn't mean she'll return your calls tomorrow. We must now work to harness the initial affliction to get her to DHV us so we may IOI her. When she demonstrates value in an attempt to win you over, reward her with IOIs, then bait her again as the process repeats.

In this way, her reward is tied to her investment. As she demonstrates value, she is simultaneously rewarded and baited to demonstrate more value. This all comes back to pair bonding. A woman takes a much larger risk evolutionarily (and therefore emotionally) when she has sex. It's not enough that she is attracted to you—your pair bond must be there for her as well. Of course, we are speaking only of emotions. Is it really true that the pair bond "must" be there? Obviously not—one-night stands happen all the time. What is the meaning then?

The meaning is that the woman still has this emotional circuitry and it's still a factor in her behavior. Her emotions prefer a man of high value, high enough that it requires effort and investment in order to win him over. And her emotions do want to win him over. She
wants to feel that he is pair-bonding to her.

In other words, she wants to feel that she is important to him not just as an attractive woman but as a specific woman. She needs to feel that it wasn't easy, that she had to invest and there was some fear of loss, but that now he is "falling" for her. His pair-bond circuits have curiously been turned on.
When you can bait a woman into working for your affections and you can convey your resulting "growing pair bond" effectively, you are now ready to move into comfort.

HOOP THEORY
One frame game that people play is to see if they can get you to jump into their hoops. For example, a girl might try to get you to do something such as hold her purse or buy her a drink. Here are some additional examples:

* She gives you a fake IOI to see if you will start chasing her
* She makes a comment to bait you into showing off to heft
* She gives a fake IOD to see if you get worried and react.
* She asks something to bait you into explaining yourself or
apologizing to her.

These are all examples of hoops that girls will use to assert their feminine power. If you are doing things for a girl, chasing after her, showing off to her, reacting to her, apologizing to her, and explaining yourself to her, those are all IOIs that she can measure and exploit.

If you jump into her hoops, two things will happen. One, she will feel really good about herself---some part of her will be reassured on a primal level. And two, she may lose attraction. Just because she likes something doesn't mean that it will get you any closer to having sex with her.

Be careful. On one hand, you don't want to be the chump who gets tooled. On the other hand, you also don't want to be the social robot that is always playing power games when he should be relaxing and confidently enjoying his interactions with women. People aren't always trying to fuck with you. When a hoop does come along, the average frustrated chump is eager to jump into her hoop. He thinks it shows her how much he cares.
He thinks it is romantic and will win her over. He thinks any guy who does otherwise is a jerk. But you don't have to jump into her hoop. You can turn it back on her. Or you can create a new hoop just for her. Or you can ignore it entirely—silence is often the best response.

Some examples:

PUT UP A NEW HOOP
Girl: Why are you talking to me?
You: Do you always wear your lipstick like that?
—OR—
You: [to her friends] 7s she always like this? Get this.
[start a routine]

IGNORE HER COMMENT
Girl: What is with your shirt?
You: (silence)
—OR—
You: Hey, guys, get this. Last weekend, my friend and I
[start a routine]
GRAB HER HOOP
Girl: Will you buy me a drink?
You: Buy me a drink and we will see.

Every conversation has some give-and-take. If she gives you a hoop, it is actually OK to jump into it, provided that you first get her to jump into one of your own.

Some examples of this:
EXAMPLE 1
Girl: How old are you?
You: Guess
Girl: Hmm... twenty-six?
You: Close. I'm actually twenty-eight.

In the first example, she asks your age. But Instead of answering straightaway, you make
her guess first.
In the second example, she tries the same trick back on you-but your frame is too strong!
EXAMPLE 2
You: How old are you?
Girl: Guess.
You: Do you want me to guess low or guess high?
Girl: Guess low!
You: Okay then... I'd say you look about twenty-two.

An interesting thing about hoops is that the more obvious it is that it's a hoop, the less likely someone will jump into it.
For example, let's say someone asked you, "Hey, man, can you grab me a glass of water while you're up?" That's a pretty reasonable hoop, and most people would have no problem fulfilling such a request.
What if instead he said, "Hey, goof. Why don't you get up, go in the kitchen, and get me some water like the little bitch that you are."
Indeed, few would jump into that hoop, which would be tantamount to accepting the frame that one is in fact his bitch. So . . . what you want to do is start small. Bait the target into innocuous little hoops: "Could you hold my drink for a sec? Thanks." Over time, as she falls into your frame, those hoops can become larger and more frequent. In the science of social dynamics, this process is known as compliance momentum. Soon she'll derive pleasure from rubbing your back and cooking your dinner, but for now start small by making her guess your age.