QUALIFICATION: PART 2

HAVE STANDARDS

Here is what it means to have low standards regarding women:

• I will take whatever I can get (which is not much).

• There is nothing special or unique about you; I settled for you because I have no other choice for sex. I'm grateful just to find someone who is willing to fuck a loser like me; apparently that someone is you.

• Being with me makes you feel common and used.

Instead, demonstrating to a woman that you have standards conveys this:

• I have a lot of choice when it comes to women. I am accustomed

to success with women.

• If I do take a liking to you, it is more than just for your looks. It is because you are a special and unique person who lives up to my high expectations.

• I will only be with a quality woman, and that's what you are.

Remember, women have antennae for this sort of thing. They can tell which way you lean, and they WILL FEEL the resulting emotions.

The average guy approaches a woman assuming that she is selective, and he hopes to pass her test. He thinks, God you are so hot. Do you have a boyfriend? Can I buy you a drink? Because of this attitude, subtle cues in his behavior will convey entirely the wrong frame. Her hardwired attraction circuitry will pick up on this, and she will lose interest.

Correspondingly, the opposite is true if you have standards: Subtle cues in your behavior will set the frame that you are a selective, high value guy. She will pick up on this and gain interest. She expects that a guy with potential will be selective. Here are some standards worth considering:

• An attractive woman who takes care of herself

• A woman who is sociable and has friends

• A woman who has a real thirst for life

• A woman who has a great energy and a positive outlook

• A woman who is not a flake

• A woman who is in touch with her own sensuality; she's not a baby anymore

• A woman who can seek after her own fulfillment instead of waiting for approval from her friends

• A classy and smart woman with an education

• A woman who is adventurous and has a great imagination

SCREENING

The idea is to get her hoping that she's good enough to qualify for you. After all, you are a high-value guy. Sure, you're curious about her, but you want to know more. Is she smart? Does she have a lot of friends? Does she have a good relationship with her family? Can she dance well? (You know what that means!) What's the most spontaneous

thing she's done recently? Can she cook?

• "Is there more to you than meets the eye?

• "What do you want to be when you grow up?

• There are lots of beautiful women here. But what's really important is the energy, the intelligence, the little things about a person that make her unique. What are some things about you that would make me want to get to know you better?"

• "If a magician came along and you could be poof anything you want to be . . . what would you choose? And don't say princess."

• "Who are you?"

• "Do you like animals?

• "How old are you?" (Now disqualify: "Oh my God, you're just a baby.")

• "So tell me; what are your three best qualities?

• "Did you go to school? Are you smart? Do you have lots of friends?"

• "Can you cook? Do you give good backrubs? Are you adventurous?

• "Are you a passionate person?

• "There are some people who... they think they're open-minded and adventurous. They make all these great plans...they talk about meeting new people, or going on a diet, or taking a cool trip. But they don't. They just sit around doing the same old boring shit, over and over again, Are you like that?"

You don't want it to be explicit that you are screening her. Be very subtle, and she will realize it on her own accord, without thinking you're trying to make her feel screened. Somewhere in her mind an attraction switch will flip and she'll think, Hey, this guy is screening me to see if he wants to invest more.

She naturally assumes that the man she is looking for will be selective. It's a behavior that she's been expecting and thus is a powerful DHV. It sets the right frame, it's the signal she's been waiting for, and it baits her to invest.

So how can you convey to her in a memorized routine that she is being screened? Ask screening questions, give IOIs and IODs at the right moments, and convey real standards about the kind of people with whom you spend your time. It has to be true for you in order for her to feel congruence. You must also have some specific stories prepared allowing you to convey that you have standards.

Qualifiers

Periodically, the time comes to let a girl know she is qualifying for you. She has to feel like she is winning you over; otherwise, she will get discouraged.

These lines are only examples. You could qualify her even with your body language. Try giving her an IOI. Turn to face her when she says something that you can misinterpret as being cool and worthy of an IOI. Often, it's useful to follow an IOI with an IOD. Notice that each of these qualifiers has an optional disqualifier:

• "You are so adorable... it's sickening."

• "You know, you can be pretty interesting sometimes.

• "You're awesome! Just kidding."

• "It's weird... I feel so good around you." (False disqualifier) "Too bad you're not my type."

• "You're pretty... and evil."

• Oh my God. You’re a dancer? That is so awesome. I can't even talk to you now"